Advice. When you become pregnant, you suddenly find that everyone wants to share their advice with you. It could be your close friends and family, but more often than not it’s complete strangers giving you unwanted advice, usually whilst fondling your bump or baby without asking! Most of this advice is well-meaning, from people who have been there and know how hard it is – they just want to try and make it easier for you, and feel involved with your little bundle of joy. It’s down to you to decide which bits to take on board and which to ignore.
We asked Mums on Facebook to share the best piece of advice that they’ve been given. Here are some of their responses:
Esther: Try and avoid directly comparing babies too much, particularly in terms of milestones.
Anne: Trust your instincts and spend time getting to know your baby, and don’t worry so much about what the books say!
Victoria: Take all the help that is offered, and don’t think people will think you are a failure if you ask for help. They won’t. They’ll just think you are sensible for recognising when you need a hand, like we all do.
Arabella: Buy a baby sling!
Louise: When things get rough, say to yourself…….it’s just a phase.
Charlotte: Get a good group of mum friends around you who are supportive and good fun. They’re the ones who will get you through the bad times and enjoy the good times with you!
Charlotte: At work when I was pregnant I had an elderly man tell me he was going to give me the only two bits of advice I would ever need. The first was – don’t encourage them to talk as once they do they never stop. And the second was – don’t worry they eventually grow up and move out. I’m not sure either would be in the attachment parenting handbook but it made me laugh at the time, and still does!
Justine: Books are just other people’s opinions written down. It made me realise that they are not the law to follow, but only what others THINK and I could take and leave advice as I so chose!
Sarah: If it’s not a problem for you, it’s not a problem.
Louise: Slow things down and enjoy it. I finished work and was expecting a good couple of weeks of putting my feet up, reading, and preparing for the birth. My little one had other ideas and turned up 12 hours later. As a result I stayed in work mode for weeks, rushing around trying to be superwoman. I eventually got the confidence to just chill out and enjoy the here and now and to stop willing him to be at the next stage. It was my mother-in-law who said enjoy every moment as they don’t stay as babies for long. And having watched Child of our Time over the past couple of nights, I realise just how quickly they can grow up, especially when I look at my little boy who resembles a toddler now much more than a baby.
What’s the best piece of advice YOU have been given? Did you realise it at the time?